There have always been specific places to flirt with. The place to be today is our smartphone, which is pretty much anywhere, even in the bathroom (don’t be innocent, you know what I’m talking about).
In terms of glamor, we do better, but per se, we don’t care since we can have a super romantic (or erotic) conversation while we are in a Mickey sweater at home. There’s a good thing about technology, though: being able to pretend we’re sexy, when in reality our sex appeal is at its lowest. It is obvious that dating sites have changed the way we flirt (we roll mechanics using the language of Baudelaire).
So what has Tinder changed and how do you use these changes the right way?
Today, dating sites, whether we talk about it for good or bad, like it or not, have become the hotspot for dating. Are you single and don’t want to stay that way? Very well ! So sign up on Tinder (or whatever site you like, there’s something for everyone) because this is where it all happens. “Welcome to the Singles Marketplace”.
Integrating a dating site allows us to identify with a community. We are all single people looking for something (sex, relationship, love…). Some live it well and flutter from conquest to conquest, because it is their vision of celibacy. Others see this status as a punishment, so being in the singles market makes them feel less excluded from this society that absolutely wants to put us together. A good way to remind ourselves that just because we go to these kinds of sites doesn’t mean we are in dire straits! It happens to other good people.
It’s no longer a shame to say, I found the woman / man of my life on a dating site. One-third of Americans who married between 2005 and 2012 used these sites.
Our advice: When registering, accept the idea that there will be people with different expectations than yours. Know how to tell the other person what you expect and ask them in return what they expect. Since we all operate on different planes, being sincere avoids the basic disappointment: “I wanted a serious relationship, but not him / her.”
In our modern world, we are so busy with work, afterworks and aftermaths, that we ultimately have little time to devote to looking for our other half. We work, we go to drink shots with our friends and we only think about one thing: to enjoy the present moment. And anyway, even if we wanted to go flirting in bars, no one goes out alone. Result: we frankly have no desire to interfere in a group to go court the girl who caught our eye, if it is to return to our table 2 seconds later, sheepishly, because we come to take a rake in front of 15 people.