I have a fake girl profile on a dating site and I confirm that the competition is not very tough in terms of intelligence and liveliness: D
Ding, simple: the flirting / dredged asymmetry, the dredged person has the opportunities that come to him, the dredging person must go and get them, hence the fact that the dredged people have more facilities.
If you always use the same approach (one that doesn’t work), whatever your physique, it will be hard to match.
There’s a stupid thing that a lot of guys forget on dating sites and without that, unless you’re very bg, it’s dead: originality.
But hey, the problem arises in both directions, both flirting people, due to the multiplication of dating sites, allow themselves to be much more select because having many more opportunities, as many people flirting, from the same multiplicity of opportunities, invest much less in each of said opportunities, dividing their efforts but reducing their attractiveness for each of these potential keys. The worst part is that the two form a vicious circle, the more one becomes selective, the more it becomes relevant for the others to multiply the keys and not to invest in one in particular, and the more it becomes relevant to be selective in its choice.
And, to use your metaphor of scoring which does not make any sense, someone who would be a 7 in a face-to-face meeting then magically becomes a 4 because no longer having this little touch allowing a profile to ‘appear as “real” and not a simple mask of someone looking for a sexual partner for a one-to-one meeting. The charisma playing for many and only rarely transpiring from a photo or a summary description.
“There must be a bias lurking in the way of seeing things. Maybe we will talk more often about this subject with girls a little ‘above the average’, while others girls actually have the same issues as us. “
Postscript note: The pavement in the spoiler can be summed up as “Self-confidence is far more important than physical appearance”.
And suddenly, I agree with the author on the fact that the facilities offered by dating sites have only worsened the superficial aspect of the search for the other. It’s clear.
You say that few girls go on dating sites, that you should flirt in real life etc, but suddenly, go ahead, if there are few girls going there, dating sites shouldn’t be a problem for you. I find you very contradictory …
It’s not enough for a girl to be on a dating site to get picked on. If she is on facebook I assure that there are random people who come to talk to her and add her as friends. So if the woman you want is on facebook, drop it.
And that goes for instagram, twitter, skyblog, youtube ect basically as soon as your wife has internet, drop it.
And …? If a random is more likely than you, either you suck or the girl is stupid. Because to chat with a guy you don’t know who adds you on FB, you have to be really desperate … To read you so that you have your chances would have to isolate girls all their lives so that you are the only guy you they cross. AT